symbiosis

                                

           When a couple are beginning a relationship, then After a short time one of them changes, because  one doesn't feel sure by self, this is a manner hide the self-distrust, and try pursuit the control, just through blackmail to keep the control. When It happen, the hell is starting between a couple. is not easy to see that behavior is changing, because one of them is fall in love and choose to bear with, and  all kinds of injustices, horseplay, jealousy, inequality, injustices, fights, lies, make phone calls frequently by distrust, and one person may try to avoid to go with friends, parties until to get control over the couple. The problem appears to be violence.

       If the relationship has signs of violence or abuse because one of the couple have grown with a few affection for their parents, because they took example some bad behavior from their dysfunctional family, after one of them apply the same attitude. Little by little the feeling of frustration is increasing in their youth, and emotional development, as a result, this distorted. after some years, become is a serious problem for couples, and this behavior was not detected in the beginning, where started by the parents who as example to young sons and daughters, follow this pattern, and becomes repetitive, in short time, like snow ball will increase through the time.

       Usually is when one of them is uncapable to see the reality, beginning affect to friends, parents, sons, and job. They don’t know what happened, and to sum up, the changes behavior, sadness, grumpy, resentment, and into low self-esteem, this a big problem, in other words, when they don't know how resolve this kind of behavior, certainly they have problems.

      For others persons is the reason of their relationship, because they are addicted high affection and emotions between two persons, and enjoy them, is the necessity have adrenaline everyday each other tries to control the activities, the friends and he review the mobile phone. The jealousy is a part of his life, after all, the abuse is normal, and threat enclose his/her couple in the room and sexually force her/him.

      This is a factor to have a codependency to his/her partner. At the first signals is that they feel so good is the moment to make couple without pause in the relationship, because it indicates that it is likely increase psychological violence or physical abuse.

      The consequence of this kind of relationship is unhappiness, sadness, and frustration. Maybe if the woman get engaged with this kind of person and got pregnant, later they will have a dysfunctional family.  Therefore, the kids will suffer and will grow with a low self esteem. The family will face many problems like poverty, emotional instability. Loneliness will always be part of their lives, and finally they get divorced, as a result. Is necessary break this pattern repeatable because the kids imitate the father’s behavior. This problem affects everyone.

       How can we prevent that situation? In my point of view, I would avoid an abusive relationship. It is by having a psychological treatment. Another solution is to denounce to the police.